I found a great book that dealt exclusively with the death of a sibling….”Surviving the Death of a Sibling” by T.J. Wray.
I would highly recommend to everyone in this position who has lost a sibling either through disease or sudden tragedy. For me, it reassured me that I was not losing my mind….that my reactions are normal….stages and steps in the grief process.
However, there are a few things that the Author suggests that are good (like exercise…..not making any major changes for at least one year….), that make someone like me, who is suffering with extremely debilitating pain, just smile. (Okay…at first I did roll my eyes!) Just remember…the book is directed to the average healthy individual.
I did have to smile and laugh when I read about how all grief counselors agree that no major change or decision should be made for one year. LOL
As you know if you have been reading my blogs, within two months of my sister’s tragic, sudden death, I quit my job (my health having taken a HUGE dive and her death magnifying all of my symptoms); AND, we moved…..not just to a new house “down the street” but to an entirely different State and climate.
Breaking this “primary rule” of grief has been good for me and my family. The death of my sister woke me up! My sister’s zeal for life…..her ability to be outgoing yet circumspective…..qualities that I have always so admired….INSPIRED me….provided the STRENGTH for me to finally step up and put my needs first.
Yes….this was completely against my being….yet….by quitting my job and relocating…..I am now in a better place for the medical care that I need….as well as giving me the opportunity to rest…..to give my body the chance it needs to improve.